We are constantly tweaking the dials. Just when we think we have the perfect setup, the "Customer" (Ash) gives us feedback that sends us back to the drawing board.
Live vs. Catch-up: The Engagement Trap
Recently, we noticed Ash struggling to retain focus during her live sessions. The pressure of being "present" - even with the camera off - was draining her battery.
So, we made a call to switch from "Live" to "Catch-up" recordings. I’ll admit, I was disappointed. I loved the idea of her being part of a class, asking questions, and showing off her handwriting to a teacher. But I had to check my own ego. This isn't about what I want; it's about how she learns.
The Monkey and The Squirrel
We discussed this shift with her therapist, and an interesting dynamic emerged. Ash felt a pressure we hadn't noticed: The pressure of the parent on the shoulder.
Claire has been sitting with Ash for every lesson. She loves it (I think she’s secretly enjoying the Art classes!), but for Ash, it felt like having a monkey on her shoulder - a constant, heavy presence watching every stroke of the pen.
Ash politely requested a change in animal. She doesn't want a Monkey; she wants a Squirrel.
- The Squirrel Rule: Claire needs to be "in the woods" (i.e., the kitchen), keeping a watchful eye from a distance, within earshot if help is needed, but not hovering over the work.
It was a polite firing, but a necessary one. Claire gets her headspace back, and Ash gets her autonomy.
Breaking the "School" Mindset
This quest for independence led to another realization about our physical environment. We had set up a "Perfect" workstation: Dining table, ergonomic chair, laptop, large monitor. We essentially built a school desk in our house.
But sitting upright at a table puts Ash’s brain into "School Mode" - rigid, anxious, and performative. So, we’ve scrapped the seating plan.
- Anime Art: Now done curled up on the sofa with a sketchbook.
- Reading: Done tucked up in bed or on a beanbag.
- Science: The table is still there for the heavy stuff, but only when needed.
The Result
We’ve tried this "Roaming Squirrel" approach for a week. The result? Focus is up. Anxiety is down.
We are learning that Home Education isn't just about bringing school into the home; it's about adapting the education to fit the home environment. Sometimes, the best classroom is a duvet.
